What are the best years of your life? Is it when you are in high school and you have the whole world ahead of you? What about college, your first experiences into the adult life? When you are fresh out of college, and starting a life? How about retired life? Anything in between?
Everyone has heard the expression, these are the greatest years of your life, but have you ever sat down and looked at them retrospectively to figure out which ones were the 'best years'? I'm sure plenty of people will point to college first. Sure, you have lots to learn when you leave your small hometown and head off to college. For me, it wasn't as big of a deal as a lot of people make it out to be. I don't know why. It was just....another four years of school. By the time it was wrapping up, I wanted nothing to do with academia. I wanted a job, any job. It wasn't that I hated college, it just wasn't a huge deal. We didn't party much after freshman and sophomore years, mainly because it was legal for us to drink so the mystique was gone. I also remember being really embedded into my studies. I needed to concentrate on getting that wonderful piece of paper that proved my time at Central Michigan was worth while. Granted, I'm not really using my degree in my daily life, but that is a topic for another day.
Then there is high school. There are plenty of milestones which can be pointed to making these four years the best years. Drivers license, Friday night football games, girlfriends or boyfriends, sports, cliques, a ton of friends, and the future. The first two years of high school, you're scared shitless because it is a new world, something that never existed except in movies and lore from your older siblings. The second two years are spent preparing for college and trying your best to stay focused in class. I had more fun in high school than I did in college because of the people I was with. Growing up in a smaller town, you go through the growing pains of junior high and high school with the same group of friends, mostly. You have the ones that move away or friends you make when they move to your hometown. But the core group of people are there. They have to the same experiences. With high school, it was just more fun (for lack of a better word). You were pissed at the world, but you didn't know why yet. So, it was fun, but I don't know if I would ever want to go through it again.
For me, the best years of my life were right after college. I worked an internship for two summers on Mackinac Island at a job that I would kill for. It was the greatest job I ever had. Not only was it the greatest job, but the people I worked with were some of the best. I think that it is because they all had the same mindset I had/have. They mostly came from the same schooling background, they were all in similar fields of study, or they just loved the subject of history. How can it not be the greatest environment? Not only did we all love our jobs, but we lived together in one big old house. It was a great transition period for me. I got to leave the house I grew up in and live out on my own (I never really counted college as leaving home) and be responsible for myself. With college, I could leave every weekend and head home if I wanted to, but with this job I had to schedule my personal life around work. We only had one day off a week, so those days were spent very carefully. So there wasn't a set time I would go home and get off the Island. This job helped me prepare for moving away from home. It made it easier than I thought it would to move down to Kansas. I knew I had to move down here. I knew it would shape my adult life moving here.
The first couple of years living in Kansas were decent enough. It was a growing period in life. A time to make new friends because we were five states away from home. We could choose to live a reclusive life or we could make friends with co-workers. These friends we have now are 'professional friends'. Friends you meet at work, your profession. Once again, they are people who have the same mindset as you, they know your troubles and how tough your job really is. The years after moving down here were spent creating a social network which has paid benefits. We have grown to watch several of our friends start their own families, a very adult thing to do.
Now, though, we feel old and some of us aren't even thirty. We use to stay out to one or two in the morning and still have the ability to roll out of bed and get to work in the morning. Now? Staying out to eleven at night is pushing it. I love and hate the nights that end at twelve or one in the morning. Staying up that late reminds us of who we use to be, but the mornings remind us of who we are now. Constant professionals that now have lives revolving around work, not fun and friends.
So, the best years of my life were directly after college. Not the college years, or the high school years, but the post schooling years. I think that it has to do with that fresh start into adulthood. Striking out on your own and starting a new phase of life. The other phases just blurred together, from high school on to college. It was eight straight years of school. Oh no, it wasn't until after school was done and wrapped up that I started to really enjoy life.